Get married early!

Get married early!

You are not getting younger!

Your biological clock is ticking!

You are not going to get pregnant easily if you get married late!

Aiya, don't so picky lah! Just find someone and get married lah!

2 more years and you're turning to 30 liao.

When wanna get married??

Sounds familiar?

Well, this is what I have been listening to and argued everyday in my life.

And it saddens me when I came across a post shared in Facebook,

whereby a man was commenting on how women should get married early, 

on how women who is getting older will not be wanted by any men,

on how these women who stayed single will eventually regret when seeing other women having kids at that age,

and on how these women's biological clock is ticking fast,

and on how these women will be called "andartu" or "leftover women" by then.

I was hurt and disappointed reading those comments.

and therefore, I feel like I need to share my views on this matter.

I am not sure if this man who wrote such tweets will ever come across my post, 

but this goes to all those who thought that we, women, decided to stay single because we could.

To those who thought we chose to be single,

we never chose to be one.

I am ready to get married.

I am ready to settle down and build a family now.

But how would I be able to do so if I haven't met the one?

The one.

You might think that I am waiting for the one who looks like my favourite oppa, 

or some rich guys,

or some prince charming to sweep me off my feet,

when all I am waiting for is a man who would love me as much as I love him,

a man who will be my companion during the happiest and the most terrible times in my life,

a man who will grow together with me emotionally and spiritually,

and a man who is ready to accept and embrace me wholeheartedly to start a new journey with.

Is this what you say, too picky?

If it is, then so be it. 

Some would then say, why don't you join more social gatherings?

Join more events, go to clubs, go out more!!!

My answer to them, so what if I go to all these stuffs?

If it is not the time to meet him, I will never meet the right person despite going out every night and meeting with new people.

Previous experience has taught me a lot.

Meeting with someone who I thought was the right person,

and eventually got heartbroken and devastated after being hung up on blue ticks,

am I going to go through such a moment again?

No.

Go chase after that guy!

If you are not proactive, you won't get him!

Guys nowadays are shy! You need to be one step ahead!

I did. And what happen?

I looked like some desperate woman who want to just get married now and have babies tomorrow.

I changed myself for the sake of being liked by him,

and what did I get?

I lost myself.

And thank God, I found myself back and I found my smiles back again.

To be honest, 

I rather stay single than ending up with the wrong person.

I rather be alone than ending up being lonely with the wrong person.

I rather have no ring on my finger than having a ring but feeling miserable of it.

I rather be with no man than being with a man who would create misery and sufferings to me till the end of my life.

I rather stay unmarried than getting divorce with a man who decided he could find someone better than me.

Yes, I want to get married.

Yes, I want to settle down.

Yes, I want to have babies and watch them grow.

Yes, I want to have someone to come home for.

But I will never settle for the less.

If you love me, then seek for me.

Work hard for me and start a new journey with me when you are ready.

Because I am ready,

are you ready?

Jenny~